It is commonly observed that in some families children are rightly loved and in some families children are punished or beaten.

It is now widely accepted that too much punishment (read beating also) harms the child. For this reason now our government has banned corporal punishment in all schools of the state. The adage, ‘Spare the rod, spoil the child’ is now outdated. Too much punishment makes the child reactionary and inhibits his interest leading to avoid study. Though some short of mild punishment is necessary to motivate the child (see motivation in the previous issue), still too much of it highly harmful. Cases are not rare that child commit suicide due to heavy parental punishment. So there lies some sort of lack of adjustments of the parents who invariably use to beat their children with whatever material they can pick up immediately may be a cane, a roller, a book, slap or blow by hand. Let us see what type of parents usually beat their children. These are all findings and not general truths.

1. Parents not in good terms with each other.

Cordial and conducive relation between parents helps the child grow rightly. Frequently, a quarrel between them is a result of either father or mother compensates his/her anger by beating the child.

2. Lack of requisite income.

Usually poor parents fail to meet the basic need of their children. So to silence them they beat. It is also found in some lower-middle class families.

3. High ambitious Parents.

There are parents who expect much from their children. Some want their child may be a doctor, engineer, M.B.A., computer engineer etc. without thinking of child’s mental ability. If the child fails to meet his parent’s ambition, he is beaten or reprimanded or insulted so severely that in some cases he commits suicide. So better guide the child according to his intellect.

4. Highly introvert Parents.

There are some parents who are always engrossed in their own thought and work and seldom socialist themselves. Lack of contact with society and highly introverted ness leads to explosion of emotion. Such sudden emotional explosion finds its channel to express by beating child or wife, so it is advisable to keep one’s emotion under control.

5. No time to spend with children.                                                        Now, it is the age of competition and most parents both may be employees going to office at 10 A.M. and returning at 5, 6 or 7 P.M. Load of work compels them to be aloof or to watch T.V. Such parents do not spend time with their children. So if children ask for some thing or even to explain some lesson, parents (if mother is not a working women, father) blares up in anger and beat his child saying, “you cannot understand such a simple lesson?”

6. Fails to provide children’s needs.

Beginning from early child hood till teen age, children have some basic needs, may be toys, papers, pencils, books, clothes etc. Some parents are so callous about their children’s needs that they do not supply them. If children place their demands repeatedly, they are beaten. So provide them their minimum basic needs.

7. If they are insulted.

Though last but not the last is this characteristics of human being. If parents (their father or mother, real more of father) have been insulted in their office or by some outsider, they repressed their anger only to give vent in the slightest occasion if rises. They repay their own anger by beating children (mother only beat children, but father sometimes beat both mother and children).

8. Unsatisfied Parents.

These are a type by themselves. They are always discontent with what they have got or the work done by others. Such people are psychologically called melancholies. These parents usually for no fault of children beat them. Such people require psychiatric treatment.

9.Drunkard Parents.

It is needless to explain this point. Heavily drunk man (father) is in habit of beating his wife and children even with slight provocation or without any provocation.

These are a few of the facts about the parents who beat their children. It is proven fact that children should not be physically punished either in school or in the home. Because children need happy and peaceful freedom for their all-round development. That is why children brought up in democratic environment in home are better successful than children brought up in an autocratic environment.