Our children are our real property. They are our most valuable asset. They need to be loved and cared properly by us. But, here a vital question comes- are we spoiling our children? Parents are more than gods to their children. But sometimes, parents knowingly, unknowingly or without a proper thought, spoil their children. This results in making the child wayward, indiscipline and just a failure one in life.

Most parents love their children so blindly that they never hesitate in fulfilling the wrong desires of their children. There are some, who even go to the extreme end and support their children, when they cry for  unjustified and unnecessary things. Some also support their children in their wrong deeds because of their negative emotion, love and affection, spoiling them.

When a child cries more frequently for certain unnecessary things, his parents provide him the things that he desires. But remember, your child’s cry may be a little demanding on you, but never fulfill his desires that directly or indirectly spoil him.

There are some parents who say, “We don’t like saying ‘no’ to our children.” Such parents  feel that their children may start loving them less if they say ‘no’ too often, and tend to give in to their children’s every demand. This is a surefire way of spoiling your child. Instead of giving in to your child’s demand at once or instantly refuting it, find a middle path. Speak to your child about what he wants, ask him why he wants it, and if you feel his demand is justified or unnecessary, then let him know the reasons. Let your child be aware of the cost, and let him know that he has to behave in a certain way before he gets it. Let your child to realize the value of money. It isn’t wise to refuse all your child’s demands as it  hinders his self-confidence. Give gifts as incentives for your child in his better performance.

Some parents say, “We want our children to enjoy luxuries that we didn’t have.” These parents want their children to enjoy the wealth that they worked so hard for. By this their children spend money lavishly and become wayward.

There are also some who say, “We avoid discussing our monetary problem with our children.” But it is most necessary to make your children aware about your financial condition and capacity, so that they can cope with that.  So, don’t try and fool them into thinking you have  more than you actually have.  If you let your children  know how much you or your wife earn, it gives them a better picture of the family finances, and it also helps them to go with that.