One of the most difficult emotions to deal with as parents is anger. The modern day parents have to deal with  varieties of stress due to the demands of the changing scenario. One of the offshoots of stress is that it makes a person the victim of anger. Most parents thus, when face their troublesome children,  feel like lying down on the floor and screaming louder than their children. They usually find it quite difficult to control their anger.  Anger can be appropriate in a situation where the parents have to discipline the child. Otherwise, anger is  inappropriate and can  be destructive.

When a parent’s anger is cooled, he or she usually just forgets about the incident. But the child, perceive the situation quite differently. Children  sometimes feel unloved. They feel that nothing they do is right. They feel angry and humiliated.

If the father or mother of a child is short-tempered, the child then develops defense mechanisms to deal with this anxiety. One such defense is deceit. Many children lie just to prevent their parents from yelling at them. Hence,  if  your child sees you losing your temper frequently, he may adopt the defense of avoidance.  This curbs the spontaneity of his relationship with you. He may become guarded about expressing his thoughts and emotions. Some children  react to anger with aggression and attitude. They will either shout back at the parents or try to demonstrate that their anger does not affect them. Some children also display their indifference by laughing and giggling. This is probably because they are nervous and try to hide their pain and humiliation.

Unreasonable Anger:- In order to know, whether your  anger is justified or unreasonable, you have to identify what it is that makes you angry. May be your  anger is the result of the reaction  to your child’s behaviour.  May be your anger is a reflection of your irritation with a minor change in your schedule. May be your anger is just an expression of your frustration by  comparing your child with his friends, securing better percentage of marks and excelling in school. It may be also due to your incapability while trying to teach your child or helping him to complete some work. May be you are irritated due to some partiality in your child’s school. Sometimes, some parents  get angry due to the unfulfillment of their negative and selfish desire of getting extra favour or more support from the teachers. There are also many, who express anger due to their incapability in giving the necessities of their children. Again, in many cases anger comes due to the endless demands of children.

Whatever, the reasons may be,  anger affects your child, providing him shock  and humiliation in turn.  Hence, you have to learn to cope with your anger. Once you are aware of this, you can reduce your anger.